In The Eyes of The Beholder

Perception - It's an interesting thing!

Most of us have all heard the saying, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder," right? But what about the other things that are in the eye of the beholder?  

Perception is an interesting thing.  You can have siblings from the same family, with the same parents rearing them and end up with varying degrees of truth about life growing up in that household.  All from the perception of the individual.

You can have several people at a crime scene, yet they all see something different. 

The half empty, half full glass is another way of showing how we tend to look at things.

The problem looms when the perception becomes damaging. For example, the perception of the abused spouse that they somehow deserved the abuse, likewise for the abused child.

Or the perception you had when you believed that friend was a true friend, but it turned out they weren't.

Or the perception you had when you believed you were doing a great job at work, only to be "let go."

Or the perception you had when you believed you were in love and you believed the other person loved you back, only to find out otherwise.

Yes, perception is an interesting thing.  The greatest thing about perception is it starts with us, in our own minds and WE HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE IT.

You can look out into the world and perceive a world full of doom and gloom.  You can perceive a world full of hate and lack.  Or, you can choose to look at the world of good people, and the good things that are happening around the globe.  You can look at all of the abundance that exists in this world and take the steps towards claiming yours.

When we operate through our senses, which we are supposed to do - we are operating through perception. When we connect with our higher self, we are operating on a very different level of awareness.  Our higher self only knows of that which serves our highest good.  Our higher self only sees that of abundance.  We have been conditioned to operate from our set of circumstance, and therefore we react to issues in our lives rather than respond to issues in our lives.  Reactions are automatic, and let's face it, many of us are reactionary.  To respond to something means you have taken the time to think about it.  You have weighed the options, and have determined a course based on the best information at hand. It is a delicate balancing act to operate from our five senses, while connecting to our higher self.

We live in an abundant Universe.  The issues of scarcity are programmed into you, and live in your mind.  We have been promised a life of abundance.  That promise did not come without the need to claim it, which means we need to do the work.  If you find that you are stuck in the mindset of lack, and you are seeking abundance, I would be happy to show you how you can achieve that.  

Write in and let me know what some of your perceptions are and how they do, or do not, serve you.

Coaching for your success!

Mai Calev, Life Coach

www.maicalev.com

Staying on Track in Times of Darkness

I was coaching a client of mine recently who had been experiencing a lot of serious personal issues in her life, when she asked me, “How do I stay focused on my dream, when the world around me is falling apart? How do I stay motivated?”  

These questions intrigued me because even though my client was not aware, I too, had been experiencing some very serious, personal life issues – or distractions, if you will.  We all have them.  I have decided to lovingly give mine a name, “Life’s Set of Circumstances.”

Sometimes these life circumstances set upon us to teach us valuable lessons; either about ourselves or others.  Sometimes these life circumstances set upon us and cause us to grow and expand in ways we never thought possible.  The set of circumstances vary from time-to-time and person-to-person, but we all have circumstances in our lives, nevertheless.  When we look at the set of circumstances we are being faced with, it’s important to not allow the circumstance to become a drama induced repeating play loop in our lives, where we do the same things over and over expecting different results.  Where we give the circumstances energy by discussing them with everyone we meet, and everyone we know.  Sure, there are certain circumstances that may require professional help, and there is no shame in that.  But, what happens when we start to give these life circumstances energy?  They - begin - to - grow.  

They grow in the shadows of our minds.  We role play things that are not even happening based on what “could” happen.  We start taking that drive into the dark twisted tunnel (our mind), not knowing if, or when, we are ever going to see the light again.

We’ve all heard the sayings, “God does not give us more than we can handle.” Or, “If God brings you to it, God will bring you through it.”  For myself, I believe that the circumstances we are dealing with in life have a very valuable role in our growth and expansion, when we look at life circumstances, through a different lens. I also pray for strength and wisdom.

Many of you that know me, know that I am an intuitive.  Do I call myself psychic? No. Intuitive? Yes. While my client was discussing with me some of the issues that were plaguing her life at this particular juncture, I did a quick check in with my higher self and the information that was provided is too valuable to keep and so I wanted to share it with you here:

There are patterns of behavior that we have all come to know, called our comfort zone.  In our comfort zones, we tend to stick to what we have always known, whether it’s the drive in to the dark and twisted tunnel of our minds, creating and recreating this energetic, dramatic, version of the circumstance, or allowing constant patterns to show up, to keep recreating the same issues.  You see, whether we like what we are experiencing or not, somewhere energetically we are calling in this life lesson.  I know this is hard for many to comprehend or to accept.  These experiences are meant for us to look deeper into who we are, what we are experiencing, and how we are to handle these experiences.  Will we contract?  Will we expand?

When we move away from the comfort zone, and learn to look at life’s circumstances through a different lens, we are able to ask the Co-Creator side of our being, questions of a higher vibration and calibration.

There are breathing exercises and various other exercises that can be done to quiet the mind in times of extreme stress.  And, it seems we take that drive into the dark twisted tunnel more often when we are extremely busy or extremely stressed. 

After asking my client a series of questions, we were able to narrow down some activities that she could tap into to assist her with staying her course, and here is that information:

The first activity is to count your daily wins. You can climb Mount Everest one baby step at a time.  Keep a journal of your wins on a daily basis.  For example, my win today is posting a video I did some time ago on Youtube.  Finally, I got this done!  You can view it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oVIhPdZmw_A

The second activity is to make sure you are handling these life circumstances in a way that resonates with your soul.  If, say, your son or daughter was in a terrible car accident, your obvious energetic direction would be to assist them and to make sure they are safe and sound - I would hope.  Maybe each day after whatever the Life’s Challenging Event is, you need to spend some blocks of time tending to the health and well being of someone whom you love and is important to you.  That is a life issue that you must do and tend to, because your soul is directing that step.

When the day comes to an end, and you have a few minutes to silence your mind, ask your higher Co-Creating self, “What one thing can I do, to bring me closer to living the life of my dreams?”  Then sit in silence and listen. If you are capable of dropping into your heart space, where you can come from a place of love, do so. Your higher Co-Creating self knows what to do but you have to silence the mind to be able to hear the message.  When you have heard what you are supposed to do, making sure this is from the quieted, silent, calm, loving, co-creating mind, not the racing through the narrow, dark and twisted reactionary mind –– then, you can journal the steps and proceed forth with putting the steps into action.

I know this was a long blog post, but I hope you enjoyed the information just the same.  I would be interested in hearing your feedback.  How do you stay the course?

Until the next post, I remain...

Mai Calev

Your Life Coach!

www.maicalev.com

Happy 4th of July 2015

Wow, it's hard to believe that it's going to be the 4th of July, 2015, already! I am sending this blog out to wish everyone a very happy and safe 4th of July!

I'd like to share my thoughts on "Independence Day," since I come from a very military family.  My father was in the Army, my brother was in the Army, I had two other brothers in the Navy, one in the Air Force and a very close family friend who was a Marine.  Though all served during peace time, except for my father, the sacrifices that they had to make daily while an active member of our armed forces was tremendous.

From the bottom of my heart, I want to thank my Dad, his Dad, my brothers, and all of the military that have come before them and those who have yet to serve.  Thank you for standing up for the values of the Constitution of the United States and for defending our freedoms - I honor all of you on this day!